@Chijann this is hilarious, really…
Like we all have different reactions to different situations.
We have Pessimistic people, Optimistic people, realists, surrealists, etc.
A person who is going through a lot and who decides to tell you “No wahala” when they are been asked “How far” should not be judged really.
I’m like that.
OK, sometime ago I was really broke.. When people asked “Mary how far? ”
I tried to leave my shell and open up
I asked some persons to borrow, but all that was asking me How far turned me down.
Whether they have or not, I wouldn’t know.
I tried to raise the money and continued My lifestyle of saying “I’m fine” whether am going through stuffs or not.
Different people and different ways of life.
This is apt, but could “no wahala” be really causing more harm than good?
Some people do it to sound positive or as encouraged by their religion.
Some to be emotionally strong.
Some say it to protect the other person of the burden which may not even concern them.
Some say it to keep secrets.
And so many other “good” reasons but then again,
What if positivity is overrated?
What if we don’t have to ALWAYS be emotionally strong?
What if the other person deserves to know or really what’s to help?
What if such secret will complicate issues?
That’s very Chijann. It’s become a default response infact an automated response. It’s just like the default or very common Nigerian response of “it is well”, when someone experiences an unpleasant news or situation.
In some situations, people say No Wahala even when they are carrying hot coal on their head because they may be so overwhelmed with the issue that their thought and consciousness of their surrounding is foggy and blurred. In some cases, they’ve experienced too many disappointment from various quarters that they have decided to do solo cross carrying. While it may just be that they are resolutely determined to overcome by themselves.
Whatever the situation, I think people should be concerned about that No Wahala response and if it’s someone close, listen deeply and observe the body language of the person and most importantly give an encouraging word to that person regardless of the brave mask they wear.
I don’t know if most of us have noticed the trend now in the country
This country is filled with so many problems. One million and one of them
But just open your mouth and ask any body “Nnaa how far?” The response you will get is “NO WAHALA”
What baffles me the most is that this answer/response comes even at a time the respondent is battling with so many problems
If people are in the habit of giving this ‘No Wahala’ answer to ‘How Far’ question while they have a lot of trouble/problem/wahala heaped on their heads, how does someone know when to render a help.
I SEE THIS AS A CASE OF DIEING IN SILENCE.
Most times the difference between asskissing and genuine respect is that the person who is indulging in the act of asskissing does it when the person he wants to impress will see and notice his/her act while someone giving a genuine respect does it even when the person he is giving that respect does not even know
They asskisser over exaggerates his/her loyalty foolishly while a genuine respecter gives his respect in matters that are ‘due’
Asskissing are mostly to gain an undue favor while genuine respect is often not for any motive
Asskissing are faked actions and not from the bottom of the heart while genuine respect are real actions
Asskissing is momentary,it only lasts for a while, when the Asskisser is still looking for a favor from the person/people he is kissing their ass while genuine respect lasts forever unless in conditions where the person respected behaves in a bad manner that makes him/her not to deserve that/those respect any longer.
Ass kissing is almost synonymous to eye service but usually misunderstood as respect or the other way round.
Kissing ass is lobbying, which is characterized with being overly respectful allot a sudden only because of some short or long term favour in mind.
Many workers are guilty of this act to their bosses or superiors especially for promotion. They become “Yes men” who always agree to whatever their Oga says whether right or wrong. They refuse to stand any of their grounds with fear of falling out of favour therefore becoming more or less puppets.
On the other hand, genuine respect is readily misinterpreted as asskissing in organisations especially in ones with strict superiors.
Subordinates see the slightest of their fellows to that superior as appeasing the gods meanwhile that fellow was only being genuinely respectful to their superior as courtesy demands.
This begs the question.
How can one differentiate asskissing from genuine respect?
@Chijann this is hilarious…
Well, as a person I frown at such behavior.
I don’t intentionally waste food when I’m on a date rather I’ll request for what I can finish.
I frown at friends who do that too whenever I find myself in the company of more than two persons in date.
That being said..
If you as a guy takes a girl out and she behaves in such manner and you just wave it off and deep down you’re not happy, I’ll say you are the one that’s fake.
You’re even worse than her.
I mean, you should be able to tell her how you feel.
You don’t like waste.
You hate it when people waste food..
Then next time she won’t try that if she goes out on a date with you.
If you dintrebuke her, she’ll continue doing such.
If I take a guy on a date and he behaves in such manner, I won’t take a sec before I call him to order.
Things should be done in appropriate manner.
What you tolerate, you can’t change.
@Samson it’s really saddening.
That Thursday wasn’t the bloodiest in June, as the mass man slaughter in Berom in Plateau state occurred before the tanker explosion in Lagos/Ibadan expressway way.
It is pathetic as dates now compete for whichis the bloodiest in Our dear Nation.
It is even worse that the causes of these disasters is as a result of Our own Undoings…
Incidence that can/could be avoided if the proper measures were put in place.
I don’t really blame the So-called Prophets who come up with different prophecies of doom.
Since there are those who would rather spend their 24hrs daily listening to then rather than doing what’s suppose to be done to avoid future occurence of such.
criticism of government has always been a saga in Nigeria especially amidst the recent avoidable disasters in the North.
All these and many more keep emanating criticisms both constructive and insultive all of which triggered a man on my Facebook friend list to make this statement that really hit me hard.
“They were once like us,” he said.
All of these leaders we now have in our sectors acting so incompetent were one time talking tough about how they would do better and bring the desired change just like us.
The real question now becomes, what happened to them?
They began to underrate the significance of their impacts.
What can I possibly do from this small office that will change the country overnight?
Eventually, they succumbed to the pressure of pessimism that their small contributions won’t matter so why bother?
They disregard the concept of a little drop of water…
Initiating a positive change in that smallest unit will go a long way in influencing others to similar or related act in bigger units.
This gradual turnover won’t bring an overnight change but a foundation for one with time.
These same leaders we heavily criticise were once like us, let’s try not to end up like them.
Does it mean that those developed countries are more prayerful than us?
It couldn’t have been ceaseless prayer that helped Obama catch Osama now could it?
Even the Republic of Benin now has more electricity than us and they aren’t half as prayerful.
What is wrong with us is not an issue of prayer but an issue of using prayer as a synonym for laziness.
For that audio of the pastor, I suspect he made that immediately after that incident just to score cheap points. And besides, not all prophecies are truly from the Most High God. And if truly it’s from God, God often reveal things to us so we can pray for or against their fulfillment. It’s God revealing the plans of the devil and honestly we don’t know how much He has saved us from so far.
Also, these disasters are not the will or doing of God. It is as a result of the negligence and carelessness of man. God has given us the brain to do what’s right, but we still expect Him to do everything for us. Just one man’s carelessness or selfishness caused so many others their lives. If we can individually be conscious of our actions and inactions knowing fully well it affects others as well, we’ll have a better world.
We’ve always been praying for Nigeria. While Nigeria still need more prayers, we need to work more, especially on our mindset and behavior and also demand better from our government. We can’t expect God to do for us what He has given us the brain to do.
Last week Thursday seemed the bloodiest in the month of June as the gas tanker explosion on a Lagos bridge rocked the entire Nation.
So, many lives were lost and just nine bodies were recovered because the rest were burnt beyond recognition. Imagine over hundred vehicles razed and they all definitely had a driver and passenger(s).
This incident got everyone talking especially about some viral audio of a random pastor who predicted disasters with named dates of which that Thursday was one of.
These predictions got me asking so many questions especially about religion that may seem offensive but worth asking.
God may not have caused that but he allowed it, why?
If it was our sins then what say us to those innocent children who were victims too?
How will God that so love us pick out specific dates to cause/allow mass murder including innocents?
If it was really God that revealed those dates, why can’t he avert them?
So, no matter the urgency and our appointment, we should not even leave our house on those dates due to fear of accidents?
All these and many more made me further criticise these so-called men of God that outrightly preach fear into the heart of members and paint God a monster so that they can extort money from the terrified and claim to appease “God the monster.”
That accident could have been an evil plot but we as a nation, every single individual, our negligence to safety precautions have always been bring us misfortunes of different magnitude and PRAYING FOR NIGERIA as many (including the president) have suggested will do absolutely nothing if we refuse to change from such negligence.
After all, we have been praying even before birth for this Nation yet it seem we have been depreciating instead.
Other Nations are not using prayers to get developed or advert looming disasters, infact these developed Nations are not even big on religion as Nigeria so why do we still think prayer is the solution when even our Holy books condemned faith without work.
The numerous unanswered prayers are making it seem like God doesn’t exist meanwhile he just can’t answer us out of the blue without us putting in work.
I stopped praying for Nigeria many years ago because it keeps reducing my faith in God which is not God’s fault but the entire Nation’s.
I sincerely hope we all stop masking our laziness under the umbrella of prayer or religion and get ourselves up to be that change we want to see.
@Cutienaomi Breakups are as a result of fallouts and disagreements
These fallouts lead to anger leading to breakups
How can one who is angry follow the right way. In this type of condition, the person will even like to do it in a manner that will be most annoying to the other party
I wonder why people do that.
I mean, adults should be grown enough to know how to do things the right way.
Breaking up with someone is suppose to be done the right way face-to-face…
This is someone you’ve been with for a while, why will you choose to give them such ill-treatment?
It’s very annoying + it shows how immature some persons can be.
Parents choosing spouses for their children is not archaic, some parents still do till today.
Can you trust their judgements?
Sometimes, our parents can be really sentimental and they choose according to their own likes or dislikes forgetting that we the children also have preferences.
In some cases, the choosing favors the children in some cases it doesn’t.
In all, if you as a grown up man won’t allow your parents influence your decision of a life partner, you should be ready to stand with whoever you decide to settle with.
I’ve seen cases where the parents don’t get to support the choices of their children and when the storms of life blows, some persons just leave their spouses standing alone with no one to run to.
Sometimes, our Parents choose to see us as their little babies, but we can never be their little babies forever…
We grow and have babies too, who grows and have theirs…