<p style=”text-align: center;”>We all know there is a lot of competitions in extended family,for instance family A wants to be better than family B and when the need arise to help they would be turn down,it could be as a result of jealousy,enemity,quarrelling etc its only takes one out of hundred to live in peace and unity,and where there is no love there can be peace and the heart to help. And for this reasons extended family has done more than harm than Good because they are lots of physical and spiritual battles attached to it ,it can only take the grace of God to overcome all</p>
Who else have noticed this trend of privileged people choosing to help only those that can pay them back the favour?
Of course, courtesy demands we appreciate every good deed done to us by expressing gratitude not only in words but also actions…but that same courtesy doesn’t demand that we offer help only to those able to return the favour…especially when we really have nothing to lose.
Even our holy books supported selfless assistance which can be summarized to giving without expecting a return.
This above philosophy helps to reduce disappointments as most of givers nowadays expect so much in return and end up getting disappointed unlike when nothing was expected back.
One day on my way trekking back to school, this man whose car broke down begged me to help him push it to a parking space which was really far in front.
I joined him, we pushed for long and on parking I just walked away without even giving him an eye contact which might have been misunderstood considering the type of street it was where everyone demands reward for help.
Another case was with a man whose car front tyre got stuck in a gutter. He didn’t even beg us to but I and my friend joined the others to free the car and as he thanked us we just walked away while the rest boys gathered round him for reward.
It might seem like a norm but it definitely pollutes the mind which causes victim to victimize others and the cycle continues.
If we all abide by this philosophy, I see a lot of mentality getting positively influenced and repeating the cycle to others…and soon the world wouldn’t be filled again with selfless humans and so much love
Sometimes I am tempted to say that extended families are overrated.
Ever ran to that uncle or aunt for help which you know quite well they are in a position to help no matter how small but only to be completely snubbed or disappointed at their response.
Don’t get me wrong.
Nobody owes anybody a handout but na still person dey help person. Someone has to catalyse your hardworking in order for you to peak and you’d think family members are the best to run to only to discover that some prefer helping outsiders than their very own family especially extended.
Fellows, why do you think this happens and what part can we play in correcting our own generation from being a family that friends are better than?
Double dating might not even be due to either of the mentioned reasons on the topic but for that human nature of doubt which always breed distrust in others.
Nobody can beat their chest to the fact of never for once doubting even the most trusted person in their life.
Those in relationship experience are prone to that thought of getting a third party as backup should in case…
I have also had that thought but quickly discarded it with my philosophy of having a clear conscience.
No matter how decent, faithful and clean your partner and their past records are, there will always be trust issues of what if…but my conclusion was that if the worst ever happens, I don’t want it to be because I doubted her so much that I started replacing her before we broke.
I just don’t want the reason for any misunderstanding of that manner to be ever traced back to me.
Mine is to play my role well while taking her as my one and only and if the worst comes to happen, my conscience won’t tell me it was because I already started replacing her emotionally.
Experience is the best teacher. . .
People with little or limited experience always find it hard to cope with the changes around them.
We get knowledge from every experience we have either from school, at home, in the environment or on the internet. People with vast experience and knowledge are those who change their environment, if you can’t travel out of your state, at least, change your compound, you’ll meet new people with different perspective of life.
I saw a quote on integral yesterday, it goes thus ”Make friend with people older than you, people from other ethnic group/tribe and people who their first language is different from yours, this is how you see the world”.
Lastly, try as much as possible to learn from your past because the knowledge you acquire from the lesson you learnt from the past will still have their uses in the future.
Nicely put, alot of people focus too much on their disability, they forget theirs an ability embedded in them, but first thing first, before someone with disability can make a tangible change in his/her society he/she needs to acquire education. This is where most of our parents fail, ”oh! My son is missing a leg, alas! He’s useless’ so they’ll neglect him and send others who are without disability to school.
One of the thing I think can motivate a disabled human is to have the feeling of being loved and cherished, they should not have the feeling of loneliness as this will also make them disbelieve in the ability lying under their disability. They should not be neglected, they are humans too, they have feeling.
We all know Stephen Hawking, despite his disability he was a well recognised scientist, a tutor, a mentor to ”even people who are not disabled” he was the only person to have conversation with his dentist during check up why do you think he achieved all these? First he got education and second, he always feel among, he have the sense of belonging.
And am sure, Irene too will have someone, somewhere mentoring her, inspiring her not to give up, telling her she can convert her disability to ability.
I believe if we stop treating people with disabilities with resentment, they will also have something to contribute to our society instead of them hanging around on the streets begging for alms and getting laughed at.
I have many values that defines me, but one value that defines me mos is giving respect to people.
This is not pride, I respect people alot because I know it’s usefulness, that’s why I have less friends than is expected and everyone who I have as friend also give me the respect I deserve, once I noticed you are a person who doesn’t give respect to others I’ll hardly have somethin to do with you.
Other value which defines me is ”giving to others who are in need”, I am so easy in having compassion on someone who doesn’t have or have less, but only when you ask, I can’t just walk up to give you something you are lacking, it’ll look as if am proud, but ask me and I’ll help you.
But at the same time while you are trying hard to be yourself you shouldn’t hurt other people with ”being you”, being ”you” must be beneficial to the people living around you. You must not use that as an excuse of not helping others who are not within the ”you” horizon. For instance, you are a great believer, a true Christian and you have been trying as hard as possible to be the best you want to be as a Christian while at the same time you vow not to have anything to do with unbelievers, those who don’t believe in what you believe in, this alone has already disqualified you from being a true Christian.
Am not saying you should please everyone but try as much as possible to make your true self an image for others to follow.
An all-round education is imperative for a balanced quality of life.
Within the school only certifies an aspect of education which can be classified as formal education while the other is informal.
Just one of these will be too one-sided to survive on.
No doubt vast of education comes from experience which we might presumed to all be personal but a wise saying stated that we won’t live long enough to make all the mistakes ourselves, so we should try to learn from others mistakes too.
In order words, experience that we should learn from could either be from our mistakes and also from others.
I think love is an amazing value, especially as we get older and busier. With little time to invest in activities, we might end up taking the relationships in our life for granted. However, I was always raised to remember that the most important things in life aren’t monetary or even tangible.
My parents taught me that family and friendships and self-respect were the most crucial values one could have, and that by following and respecting those values, I would find more happiness in my life endeavors. It is important to let those close to us know that they are loved and it is also important to love oneself. At stressful points in my life, I can rely on those values to find encouragement and inner peace, regardless of the circumstances I am in. This love is what forms my support system.
I have found that the more information we can gather in our lives enhances the quality of our lives.
This Education can also be called experience – the events we see around us and the situations we live through. I liken experiences to pieces of a giant life puzzle. Each piece we gather and fit into the puzzle adds clarity to our life puzzle and helps us make better decisions. Which lead to a more productive and enjoyable life.
We must always draw from the wells of education ones in a while.
And education only within the four walls of school is so poor and draining because there’s so much more to learn.
Just as someone ones said_” A child educated only at school is an Uneducated child”.
Her name is Irene and she’s only 16 years old.She was born missing the lower part of her right arm. She grew up in a day and age where she never saw anyone like her. We rarely see people with missing limbs working in local grocery store, on TV, on billboards, or even being confident just walking around. This is the case of irene_ she never had a role model growing up. She always thought that she was alone. That she was the only one on this whole planet who was missing an arm. I always questioned a higher power wondering “why me?” she said. “Why me out of all these other people?”. But now she thinks she’ve figured it out. After growing up competing on horseback, dancing, and trying to smile even when its just not working. She knows her purpose now. Irene is now an ambassador for change online. She’s now an helper to the cry of many with disabilities.
With the power of social media and awareness she can now be that role model that she so desperately needed as a child. Growing up having a role model is important but Irene just figured out that being a role model to someone is the most important…
Try making a change in this world_irrespective of your disability.
just as Maya Angelou would always put it_”be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud”.
Apart from ”privacy security”, I don’t think locking your phone would necessary. By the way, what could be so private on the phone that you’ll use ”complex password/pattern” to lock it? You got documents inside? Were you trying to hide you photos? I have seen some Patterns so complex that even world bank wouldn’t use in protecting their vault.
Using Password/pattern is good until your phone is needed in haste or in an emergency without your presence.
An accident might happen that your are knocked into coma, the rescue team will surely need to call your relatives but that won’t be possible when you have passwords or patterns on your phone.
If at all you are going to use password use simple ones you think people can guess in case of emergency, but I’ll advice you not to use passwords at all.
Whatever it is you want to keep private should either be in your email or your diary.
Why would someone complain without a purpose? The only reason for someone to complain is because he/she wants solution to what their complaint is all about.
Repeated complaints sometimes happens when you have no power to change the situation or solve the problem you are complaining about, all you have to do is just complain to the superior for them to provide the solution.
The only way I think complaints is bad is when you have the solution to the problem on your palm, Imagine someone who keep complaining about mosquitoes biting him in his room, such complain is useless as he can easily tidy up his room, but mosquito coil or Net to solve the problem.
It’s well said that solutions lies within the problems but have we noticed that complaining actually voices out the solutions sometimes?
The problem is with the way it’s being said with so much repetition that makes it annoying.
Only if we could listen with an open mind and not take offence or ignore too soon.