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Reply To: AS 2019 IS FAST APPROACHING

Exactly. It baffles me when I hear people talking about not having anything to do with politics. People fail to understand that ignorance is the reason as to why we are where we are today. The prices of rice, beans, maize and all other things depends on politics. If we have a good leader in place, those things will be affordable to everyone else.

It baffles me to hear people say their vote doesn’t count. If at all your vote doesn’t count, then why do politicians pay to have your votes?

We should be wise. It is our collective duty to move Nigeria to the next level. No one person can do that

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AS 2019 IS FAST APPROACHING

This is August 2018. Just barely half a year remaining for the general elections in Nigeria to start off
Both presidential election and others
The whole place is getting heated up, defections here and there, accusations and counter-accusations
Our politicians should try to thread with caution and for once try to play politics without bitterness, rancor and otherwise
The elections should be allowed to be free and fair so that the people’s choice should count
No killings, no anarchy and other vices
Let’s all try to give the INEC the chance to get it right this time around
If we get it right, it is still us that will enjoy it and have a better country we can call our own
Let all of us join hands together and salvage this country because no one if not us will do that for us

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Never An Atheist

No matter how things get or how confused I get, there will always be that strong conviction in me that there is one superior power somewhere that I choose to call God.

This issue always get loud whenever I meet an atheist or wannabe. They are just so sure that God doesn’t exist until I ask them how creation came to being.

I first read it in one of the JW magazines that saying things just fell into places, Big Bang Theory is just like saying that a house in a forest was built by no one rather as a result of every single wood fall into the right place at the right time until a house was formed out of nothing.

Exactly.
Very unreasonable.

Whenever I put this illustration to them, we end up believing in something which they still refuse to call God but whatever name they choose to call The Creator, as long as they believe.

What are your experiences with atheist too?

Let’s share and educate ourselves.

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Reply To: What's your stance on this baffling paradox?

To be honest, I will be one of the most guilty as long as this issue is concerned.
Those short term gratifications are almost like morphines which hijacks the pleasure centre of our brains and label that other important duties as boring.
These are just natural phenomenon which we can barely control but how I do it is the emphasis on the long term regret.
For example, I have this project for my final year which really seems a heavy burden compared to going online, communicating especially with babe and so many other gratifications.
Although, the project might be truly boring but the imagination of an extra session after graduation just to complete my project always jerks me back to work even with a broken spirit and boy, does it give me so much joy after each chapter progress.

Sometime ago, I saw this video on facebook that emphasizes on “giving a damn.” We know these consequences, we know the benefits, all required of us is to just give a damn about them and make the right decisions even though it is never always pleasant but can never be as unpleasant as the repercussions

Thoughtful Comments: 10.  10 (interesting)

What's your stance on this baffling paradox?

I was watching my nursing doe this morning as she refused to eat just because she was separated from her kid (that’s just over a week old) for some minutes. She had the chance of nibbling at her food while ignoring his absence but refused to do that as she kept paying attention to his bleatings. She knew she had to feed him at that moment and saw no reason for further delays.

Then, I thought of something…

Why is it so difficult for us as humans to align what we should do now with what we end up actually doing?

This paradox does not only apply to physical activities but to almost every worthy thing that we embark upon as humans. Do we still say it’s our flair for procrastination that’s screwing us as humans or there’s something else behind it?

For instance, there are times when I intentionally delay working on a task just to chat with a female buddy when I know the consequence of a late delivery (wink). Sometimes, people break their diet routines and eat loads of junk and non-prescribed foods, even when they know it makes them feel uncomfortable afterwards.

For some, they prefer mesmerizing on Iroko Tv, Ndani Tv, Daily Motion, Netflix, Vimeo and co to working on their passionate projects, which they end up regretting at last. In some quarters, instead of focusing on where their shoes hurt, such people lose their cool and yell at their loved ones or people close to them, knowing fully well that they’re trading temporary gratification for a long-term regret.

It goes on and on like that and I keep wondering why we keep living our lives this way. Can’t we just gear our action lever to the right place and at the right time? Would we still be facing some of the societal issues we’re currently facing if we stop indulging in our guilty pleasures (despite being a form of therapy for the mind)?

Can we stop this trend of mismatching our objectives in our decision-making process? Can we stop hiding under the umbrella of restraints just because we’re enjoying its momentary shade? When would we start using our willpower to rediscover ourselves? Can we envisage a brighter future for ourselves by differentiating the actions that will have favorable outcomes on us from those that won’t? When would we start taking giant steps toward our reality?

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Reply To: A Call to Change!

@Chijann: “They see the problem as a family affair that should be known by no one. The authorities are also human beings in the system who will always tell the couple to go and settle at home.”

Yeah, and that’s where the emotional intelligence comes in. You see, some of the people who are in this condition also prayed against it but life is sometimes a bitch!

The books tell us that “emotional development is directly related to cognitive development” and that furthermore, “emotional development is linked with perpetual maturation”. I like going with the latter because lots of educated people out there still suffer in silence and it’s gonna be so hard for them to achieve emotional independence from their abusive partners (whether man or woman). That’s why it’s imperative for all of us to acquire a set of values or ethical system that would be used in developing our ideologies. Once, that’s in place, then we would be able to make the best decisions. Moreover, I think counseling interventions also play a big role here (especially at the young adulthood stage where most people battle with emotional isolations and issues of loving and being loved).

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Reply To: Asskissing Vs. Genuine Respect

An asskisser most times is a very cunny person

He/she pretends as if he has respect when he is seeking for something from a person he is kissing his/her ass

If you want to  know if he has a genuine respect, just act as if  that thing he is kissing the ass is no longer available, he  will withdraw his fake respect.

Thoughtful Comments: 10.  10 (interesting)

Don't be Kalinic

Croatia came to this World Cup with only two natural strikers. Mario Mandzukic, the guy who scored the winner last night was one.

The other was Nikola Kalinic.

Kalinic was on the bench for Croatia’s first game against Nigeria. With five minutes to end that game, coach instructed him to dress up and replace another player.

Kalinic angrily refused to play, in protest of being left on the bench.

He saw himself a top player, and wouldn’t come on for just five minutes. The coach turned to other player Pjaca for the substitution.

After the match, Kalinic refused to apologize, despite appeals from other coaching staff.

The coach then sacked him from the team, and sent him home from Russia. Kalinic flew for holidays, and even posted pictures of himself enjoying elsewhere.

After all, he seem to imagine Croatia won’t go anywhere in the tournament. But without him, the team managed to win their matches.

Croatia achieved their greatest football achievement in history, reaching the World Cup final.

The remaining 22 players are national heroes. Their names forever inscribed in the hearts of generations.

Kalinic is not part of the winning team all because of minutes of anger, pride and bloated ego.

He may have regretted now but it is too late. These stories about life are quite familiar to us, but do we really learn lessons from them? As they profoundly apply to all spheres of life?

Learn to cut pride, learn to control anger and deflate ego. And ultimately, learn to say SORRY.

Years of sweat and dedication can all be shattered by moments of anger and pride.

Kalinic was too proud.
Too proud to be a substitute.
Felt bigger than the entire team.
Kalinic will never be in the World Cup final again.
Oh, Kalinic !
Don’t be a Kalinic.
#copied

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Reply To: NO WAHALA

@Chijann this is hilarious, really…

Like we all have different reactions to different situations.

We have Pessimistic people, Optimistic people, realists, surrealists, etc.

 

A person who is going through a lot and who decides to tell you “No wahala” when they are been asked “How far” should not be judged really.

I’m like that.

OK, sometime ago I was really broke.. When people asked “Mary how far? ”

I tried to leave my shell and open up

I asked some persons to borrow, but all that was asking me How far turned me down.

Whether they have or not,  I wouldn’t know.

I tried to raise the money and continued My lifestyle of saying  “I’m fine” whether am going through stuffs or not.

Different people and different ways of life.

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Reply To: NO WAHALA

This is apt, but could “no wahala” be really causing more harm than good?

Some people do it to sound positive or as encouraged by their religion.

Some to be emotionally strong.

Some say it to protect the other person of the burden which may not even concern them.

Some say it to keep secrets.
And so many other “good” reasons but then again,

What if positivity is overrated?

What if we don’t have to ALWAYS be emotionally strong?

What if the other person deserves to know or really what’s to help?

What if such secret will complicate issues?

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Reply To: NO WAHALA

That’s very Chijann. It’s become a default response infact an automated response. It’s just like the default or very common Nigerian response of “it is well”, when someone experiences an unpleasant news or situation.

In some situations, people say No Wahala even when they are carrying hot coal on their head because they may be so overwhelmed with the issue that their thought and consciousness of their surrounding is foggy and blurred. In some cases, they’ve experienced too many disappointment from various quarters that they have decided to do solo cross carrying. While it may just be that they are resolutely determined to overcome by themselves.

Whatever the situation, I think people should be concerned about that No Wahala response and if it’s someone close, listen deeply and observe the body language of the person and most importantly give an encouraging word to that person regardless of the brave mask they wear.

Thoughtful Comments: 10.  10 (interesting)

NO WAHALA

I don’t know if most of us have noticed the trend now in the country
This country is filled with so many problems. One million and one of them
But just open your mouth and ask any body “Nnaa how far?” The response you will get is “NO WAHALA”
What baffles me the most is that this answer/response comes even at a time the respondent is battling with so many problems
If people are in the habit of giving this ‘No Wahala’ answer to ‘How Far’ question while they have a lot of trouble/problem/wahala heaped on their heads, how does someone know when to render a help.
I SEE THIS AS A CASE OF DIEING IN SILENCE.

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Reply To: Asskissing Vs. Genuine Respect

Most times the difference between asskissing and genuine respect is that the person who is indulging in the act of asskissing does it when the person he wants to impress will see and notice his/her act while someone giving a genuine respect does it even when the person he is giving that respect does not even know
They asskisser over exaggerates his/her loyalty foolishly while a genuine respecter gives his respect in matters that are ‘due’
Asskissing are mostly to gain an undue favor while genuine respect is often not for any motive
Asskissing are faked actions and not from the bottom of the heart while genuine respect are real actions
Asskissing is momentary,it only lasts for a while, when the Asskisser is still looking for a favor from the person/people he is kissing their ass while genuine respect lasts forever unless in conditions where the person respected behaves in a bad manner that makes him/her not to deserve that/those respect any longer.

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Asskissing Vs. Genuine Respect

Ass kissing is almost synonymous to eye service but usually misunderstood as respect or the other way round.

Kissing ass is lobbying, which is characterized with being overly respectful allot a sudden only because of some short or long term favour in mind.

Many workers are guilty of this act to their bosses or superiors especially for promotion. They become “Yes men” who always agree to whatever their Oga says whether right or wrong. They refuse to stand any of their grounds with fear of falling out of favour therefore becoming more or less puppets.

On the other hand, genuine respect is readily misinterpreted as asskissing in organisations especially in ones with strict superiors.
Subordinates see the slightest of their fellows to that superior as appeasing the gods meanwhile that fellow was only being genuinely respectful to their superior as courtesy demands.

This begs the question.

How can one differentiate asskissing from genuine respect?

Thoughtful Comments: 10.  10 (interesting)

Reply To: LADIES AND FAKE LIFE

@Chijann this is hilarious…

Well, as a person I frown at such behavior.

I don’t intentionally waste food when I’m on a date rather I’ll request for what I can finish.

I frown at friends who do that too whenever I find myself in the company of more than two persons in date.

That being said..

If you as a guy takes a girl out and she behaves in such manner and you just wave it off and deep down you’re not happy, I’ll say you are the one that’s fake.

You’re even worse than her.

I mean, you should be able to tell her how you feel.

You don’t like waste.

You hate it when people waste food..

Then next time she won’t try that if she goes out on a date with you.

If you dintrebuke her, she’ll continue doing such.

If I take a guy on a date and he behaves in such manner, I won’t take a sec before I call him to order.

Things should be done in appropriate manner.

What you tolerate, you can’t change.

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