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February 16, 2018 at 8:54 pm in reply to: Romance – What does it mean to be really romantic? #5699
After reading this your love story I got a question for you.
Do you think there are factors that affect the level of romance people display? Perhaps, the place of residence (like Odogbolu 🙂 instead of crazy Lagos ), size of one’s pocket or the mindset of the couple?
You mean with all these love wantintin story you have written, you only score yourself 14. What is your plan with the 14? Confess!!! Is your plan to force us to downgrade our ratings ehn…..There is God o!Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
I’m really disappointed with how the originator of this topic went on and one about black people. I patiently read through the other posts hoping to find some different view from the previous poster but I found none. It’s really very easy to generalize but equally wrong because you end up tagging and destroying or uplifting a large number of people for the acts of a few people (in your case, destroying an entire race).
The text, “Sometimes it makes me wonder if we were created differently….“, leads me to infer that the author is black or has some black ancestry. FYI – I was created wonderfully!’
@Volani (the Author) – It really is sad to know that you think so poorly about your race (and particularly about yourself) and go on to rant about it in public. You’ve simply giving more ammunition to those who, prior to your vexation, ordinarily considered the black race as backward and use every other derogatory word out there on black people. I don’t think that’s the best approach to self and community improvement.
There’s also no point giving a dog a golden casket (with your consolatory parting words) after you’ve beaten, maimed and killed it by using your words to condemn you, your race and your generations unborn.
I am not going to use this post to distinguish myself and set myself apart from your way of thinking. Success lies in the determined gripping hands of the individual, not the color of your skin, not your background, not who people say you are! Rather than get extra nails to crucify the black race, please proffer some ideas that can be implemented even as localized as one’s neighborhood.
There are many children in my town I want to inject a new way of thinking into, not the type that many adults have about each other. My advice to you and everyone reading this post, become a role model and mentor in your community with improved views and values to pass down to your mentees. This will change those little army of children. Just imagine if more adults with a new or improved way of viewing themselves start to pass these mindset to children – then there’s more hope for the race scorned by its own. If you look inwardly at yourself and profess to the world that your race is a failure (and invariably you too), then don’t expect the world to strive to correct your mindset. You are responsible for unlearning bad programming and learning new ways of thinking.
The question you really need to answer is, who do you say you are? If your response ends up still sounding like an Uncle Tom, then the world may rise to applaud your literary style but will henceforth view you as a person with serious inferiority complex who has a desire to sound poetic.
PS – I have added my tags including, The Black Mind – A Beautiful Mind, to this topic.
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February 9, 2018 at 1:33 pm in reply to: The place of Romantic love and Procreation in African marriages. #5452
Just thinking about it now, I’m not sure about the use of the term African anymore. Maybe somethings are African because they originated there like the food and clothing but I think our lifestyle (at least in many urban cities in Africa) is no longer African. We are a mix of many influences around us as well as what we consume with our senses which often do not originate from Africa.
This also affects our understanding of marriage because people’s judgments have been influenced by many things including foreign: movies, books and personalities. The previous experiences we learnt from our progenitors is either fading away, on recess or will soon go extinct.
So, my universal takeaway in marriage: Both individuals should aim to develop a less selfish love that eventually matures into selfless love. This is very important in any marriage regardless of geographical location or racial roots. You can learn to love who you don’t have much in common with, with some effort but that’s difficult. However, it’s better to find one who you have something in common with, for then the love is easier to cultivate.
Children, I believe strengthens the bond but I’m not sure why you asked this question Jiloa, what’s your own take on this?
What is Romance? How can one identify it especially in an African setting?Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Wow! I love what I’m reading here. Femi making decent observation about someone’s writing while Tobyphd takes the comments in good fate. Thumbs up to both of you for your matured conversation.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
I’m a bit curious, is this quote from some scriptures or inspired by you? If the former, please be kind enough to point us to where we can go and study the text.
Thank you. 🙂Thoughtful Comments: 0.
I’m not going to waste time deliberating on whether the fire from a stove is hotter than the fire from a gas cooker, all I know is both of them will burn my hand if placed over it long enough. Neither will I try and give a analogy of several past regimes and their successors as resembling that of HIV and AIDS within a victim unless full facts and figures are provided (especially what really goes on that rocky place).
However, I’m interested in knowing what actions can be taken to have a paradigm shift from these dying breed. Some have advocated for the youths to takeover power but I will not be emotionally swayed on age over integrity, knowledge and the leadership qualities of an individual.
Prophet Fela sang our predicament decades ago when he said, the same old politicians, wey rule Nigeria before, all of them dey there now”. Listen to many of his songs, not much has changed….for the better, in the way Nigeria is today.
We really need to stop Baba 70s lyrics turning out to be a curse in Nigeria.
The first 2 posters appear to be in their 40s going 50 (I may be wrong) so my question is, who’s going to bell the cat?
Please feel free to vent but after we have all calmed down, can we please articulate ways through which political power can be taken from the claws of these retired diehards.
I look forward to your comments.
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Funny thing is that in some other parts of the world they would be moaning and complaining about the cold. If only we could find a way of having a climate exchange program or trade-off where we send off some of our heat to them and they send down some cold to balance off. That way, we all have an awesome weather all year round 🙂Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (witty)