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That’s very Chijann. It’s become a default response infact an automated response. It’s just like the default or very common Nigerian response of “it is well”, when someone experiences an unpleasant news or situation.
In some situations, people say No Wahala even when they are carrying hot coal on their head because they may be so overwhelmed with the issue that their thought and consciousness of their surrounding is foggy and blurred. In some cases, they’ve experienced too many disappointment from various quarters that they have decided to do solo cross carrying. While it may just be that they are resolutely determined to overcome by themselves.
Whatever the situation, I think people should be concerned about that No Wahala response and if it’s someone close, listen deeply and observe the body language of the person and most importantly give an encouraging word to that person regardless of the brave mask they wear.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Some of the responses to this thread seem to misunderstand my position when I talked about doctors, it’s actually one of the various groups where abuse can occur from those in a superior position to those depending on them or working for them.
The abuse of a fiduciary relationship is not limited to lecturers nor doctors but it cuts across as many spheres of influence where abuse of power can arise, so let’s not use a white lab coat to cover the sins of some of those irresponsible doctors out there. Let’s not be quick to forget that, seemingly reputable presidents like Clinton have acted inappropriately sexually….TV beloved like Cosby and many other celebrities are been exposed because one or more people decided to come forward. Is it because people have not had the courage or medium to come forward for doctors that we assume all is well in that sector? I lived in a top teaching hospital for over year and had friends among doctors and know a bit of what went on.
Shall we fail to consider some religious “leaders” who have perfected the art of deception and prying on naive, gullible women, either desperate for a husband or child? It abounds even in places people decide to tag house of God (I wonder why people call it House of God…..I guess that’s story for the g*ds)
In all human relationships, we expect people to act with a certain standard and respect for others but it does not mean that will always be the case and so to wave it aside that some doctors don’t partake glaringly or subtly in abusing some of their patients is merely playing the Ostrich.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
A possible sign that couples are slipping apart is when they start sleeping apart.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
Well everyone is going on about academic qualification – I just want to chip in that I’m not interested in the school system 🙂
I’ve not earned anything from it. I have learnt more from outside school than all the variety of academic wallpaper I have gained; and now to the whole hogwash about giving a different nomenclature to 2 different people who spent the same period of time in a different learning environments simply because one is termed university and another polytechnic.
Can one pleeeeeeeeeease tell me what exactly is the difference between the two. If we change the name signage at the gates of these institutions will it make things different? You see how society influences people to be prejudicial!
I went to a university but I liked the fact that polytechnic students were more hands on and back then if I was an employer I would have preferred hiring them then.
I think they should just slam the same title to graduates and upgrade the facilities in certain institutions.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
@blacknizer, How hungry are you to see that desire become a reality? Multiply it by 10x and push through.
If there’s a very strong will, there’s a way. The power of your mind should not be underestimated. Persistence against all odds will see you through. With this determination, you sometimes would see assistance and help come your way, be sensitive to identify it and although the pressure of life and fear of failure may be overwhelming, let your head be clear and not emotional about making the right decisions towards fulfilling your goal.
As they say, it ain’t over until the fat lady sings!
Best of luck!Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
You actually got me worried when you talked about people losing their lives. Are there any construction worker’s insurance and if none. I’m guessing some thing are done without due process considered.
Typically, the owners of the scaffolding would have to bear some liability where such scaffolding was of poor quality causing harm or even death unless they can prove otherwise. However this all depends on the type of site involved and the developers. It will greatly determine the quality of equipment used and their regard to human lives.
I do know that, some Health Safety and Environment regulations require that before coming on some sites, some companies would have to give you the appropriate clearance and you have to be equipped with the right construction gear including a hard hat.
It’s all about regard for life and covering themselves from liability.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
As an elected politician, your commitment is to the people and not to engage in permissiveness just to please other politicians.
Your supporters could even become upset with you with this mindset. What if some of these people who are contested with you are of questionable characters? Please align with what is good and positive and will move the community forward. There’s a reason you won. So don’t play eye services the votes of the play, nevertheless, there’s no need either to rub the loss of election in the face of those who failed to win.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
I’m not sure you have to be an indigene of the state where you wish to contest for a Local Government. I skimmed through the constitution an Electoral Act 2015 but didn’t find anything about years as a resident in the Local Government.
However, I would like to propose that there must be some form of link to the place – perhaps a minimum duration as a resident of the place so we don’t end up seeing the fly by night politicians. I also would prefer an amendment to the constitution to which everyone campaign on their own merit and piggybacking on the influence of any party. I wish for a situation where people actually work hard to get people’s vote and not based on party politics at stage. At grassroot level, it should be more personal and people in the community should know you EVEN if you got no posters or flyers.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
These three concepts all play a part in one’s life and one concept should not be discarded or relegated in the background for the others.
I don’t agree with que sera sera – what will be, will be for even God has given man Freewill.
I would regard Destiny as an expected end based on you doing certain things along the way, for which certain results will be turning up. I also believe you can alter that expected end and in some cases get off track completely.
The biblical story of the Israelites in Egypt talks about them get out of slavery in 400 years but they failed to do certain things (perhaps, pray or seek God). Same bunch all died in the wilderness taking 40 years instead of 2 months. This is an unfulfilled destiny.
It’s an important thing for one to know exactly what one’s purpose on Earth is and once you lock on target, it makes life easier to navigate. Fulfilment in life becomes clearer.
Finally, Ecclesiastes 9:11 makes it clear that success is not always about your abilities but opportunities will occur, just be prepared to receive and make use of it.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
…….I relied on nurses to do so many things a man normally does in private. I had no choice and in a couple of weeks, I got used to it. Implying that for a number of weeks you were not used to it – chikena!
Guys! Get my point. Being completely naked in front of a doctor (for the first time, at the very least), must have created some discomfort so let’s not speak as though the questions are not relevant and we are living in utopia. Is it because we are in a country (Nigeria) where some people can literally get away with murder and no one is seeing nor dealing with several of these irresponsible lab coat wearing, finger poking people!
There are a lot of victims out there especially women, from irresponsible, randy male doctors (unless the lesbian doctors have joined them too). 🙂Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
C’mon! Are you saying there are more female doctors than male? 😲Thoughtful Comments: 0.
@mayjovey, I wish you had answered my questions instead of assuming that it’s ridiculous. Even though, I’m surprised you took that view, being a woman (based on what you made out on your profile).
The fact that something is or may be unavoidable doesn’t mean people are happy with going through with it and this is what brought about the question.
Secondly, the issue of what gender would be a better choice is also relevant. Most of you talked about “professionalism” in the medical profession, as though these people after their
hypocriticalhippocratic oath, go on to drink some heavenly palm wine that makes them act angelic.
Let not the white lab coat fool the world.
I lived in a Teaching Hospital while in the university, stayed in the doctors quarters with a consultant for at least a year. I had doctors and medical students as friends. I heard, took part in conversations and also knew of certain atrocities that went on. Anyway, it doesn’t matter, all those doctors have long moved on, so if you ever were admitted there, nobody will be discussing and giggling about your body parts, long after you’ve left the examining room or fiddling with your body parts all in the name of examining you.
I curiously ask again…..have you actually stripped naked in front of a male doctor or a female doctor and did you react the same way – “ridiculously” indifferent? 🙂Thoughtful Comments: 0.
I’m not a fan of doctors so I won’t buy the analogy of one being confirmed as brain dead and because of that reason lose hope and pack everything in. Although, it would appear as the default to assume simply because some individuals who ought to know something, tell you so, nevertheless, there have been incidents where they’ve got it wrong several times….many times where their arrogant “know it all” attitude have led to the wrongful deaths of people.
Some people have gone on to refuse doctors’ reports and seen their certified dead loved ones come alive again. Myth? No. A friend of mine was told not to worry about their pregnancy because the doctors had told him the baby was dead and they need to evacuate it. Fortunately, he listened to advice of friends and drove his wife from Lagos to Cotonou where the baby was confirmed as being exhausted for intentionally delayed labour, and after a while was born.
Had they listened to such mischievous, arrogant, callous “know it all” doctors, they’d have lost their baby.
Just like I tell people to people to triple check whatever a doctor tells you, also don’t lose hope even when things seem dead.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
March 19, 2018 at 11:53 pm in reply to: Modern Religious Institutions: A Major Cause of Moral Decay? #8942
@aezolase, It’s a great time to free yourself from the shackles of manipulations. It’s not a condemnation but probably a lamentation from heaven with the scripture, my people perish for lack of knowledge.
If you’re not going to be an influencer and shine the light in the church, you may have to go get enough oil in your lamp first. You need to study the bible properly so that you can rightly divide or correctly explain it. If you lack accurate knowledge of what’s inside the bible then you’ll become meat for the wolves dressed in spiritual robes.
It’s because many are lazy to read and study but prefer to rely on what their leaders say, and are good at quoting what they say but not what God says or what’s in the bible that makes them the gullible blind. A lot of what is preached out there is weak and won’t develop you.
The craze for filthy lucre in churches has been going on for over 2,000 years and people alter the truth for gain. The devil’s trick is to give you a glass of nice wine with a drop of cyanide in it = Death.
Why would you want to gather in a place that does not represent the truth (a mixture of falsehood and truth is falsehood). Why are you worried about forming a quorum of 2 or 3 before Jesus is in your midst? Does it mean if you’re the only one in a place, you get an invalid password to God’s presence?
Do like Paul and separate yourself; go and study your bible, then study yourself and don’t let anyone hoodwink you again.
Next time they try to increase their networth by manipulating you with tithes, ask them if tithe is old or new covenant. If they say it’s old, then why are we still discussing this issue. Based on the post-ascension church in Acts, we are Gentiles and are not bound these crazy burdens and regulations imposed on by modern churches – it’s enslavement, don’t fall into their trap!
They would probably blackmail you with Hebrews 10:25 – Not forsaking the assembly of the brethren – Let them explain to you what Jesus meant when described who his brethren were (Luke 8.21 and Matthew 12.50) then close it with 2 Timothy 2:22b NLT (Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts…………not people gathered in a building tagged as church).Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
@aezolase, Open Ballot may become life threatening for individuals who have “chopped” the stomach infrastructure and have gone on to vote elsewhere. However, if everyone knows your stance from the onset why would they threaten to kill you…..anyway, you are probably right.
I would like Open Ballot but that also depends on the neighbourhood. One benefit is everyone has a visual idea of who has the most votes. Unfortunately, the failure to guarantee the lives of people at the election and afterwards is worrying. So for the safety of lives, I would go for open secret ballot system cause it’s not worth dying for….also not that it’s right but it will be a lesson for those who want to buy people’s vote only for the voters to vote elsewhere 🙂Thoughtful Comments: 0.