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  • in reply to: PRICE HIKE IN FESTIVE PERIODS #9449

    Janefrances
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    It is really simple.

    Increase in demand, leads to a decrease in supply and an increase in price.

    The sellers realise that the buyers are desperate and would buy at any cost.

    There is also this thing traders do,  they make the buyer feel like he has no other choice and might not see that particular item again to buy.  They bring it out in very small quantities so it looks like “you either buy no,  or never” so the buyers buy like people with no other choice who are acquiring the last price with the last chance.

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  • in reply to: Reincarnation #9298

    Janefrances
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    Well this is one topic with so many contradictions.

    Traditionally,  we believe in reincarnation and in some traditions even like we Igbos,  it is believed that a person who has not lived well cannot reincarnate.

    Our belief in it is even reflected in the names we bear like Nnenna(the father’s mother),  Nnenne (mother’s mother) or even giving a child the exact name if the person they believe reincarnated.

    Certain instances seem to agree with tradition e.g, children who have same birthmarks,  same behaviour,  same likes as the believed returnee. Sometime,  we even hear of children having scar marks at birth as one had by the dead.

    Now bible and science disagree. Bible Sat’s we die once and then judgement. I read a Christian somewhere say the marks we see are sometimes there because we wish them there and maybe the wish to see a loved one returned, makes us foster the devil to give us a figment of what we wish for.

    Now who is correct?

    Wait when I die,  I’ll tell you.

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  • in reply to: EXCLUSIVE BREAST FEEDING #9280

    Janefrances
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    Exclusive breast feeding is an advice that mothers are seriously encouraged to take as the babies usually have better immunity and generally live healthier. However,  in some cases,  it is not just possible for some mothers(though willing) to practice. Examples are

    Mothers whose breast milk do not flow well

    Babies with huge appetite who will remain hungry no matter how long they suck.

    Unavailable mothers(career driven women or those who may have emergencies that may not allow the time)

    And sadly,  babies who lose their mothers at birth.  In cases like this,  certain baby products are recommended.

    Also,  as good as exclusive breast feeding is,  it has a few disadvantages which include:

    The babies usually are unable to eat properly after the exclusive period.

    When time comes to discontinue breast feeding,  it usually is a tug of war between mother and baby.

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  • in reply to: when is it the time? #9231

    Janefrances
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    The right time is when it feels right.

    When you are mentally prepared to handle another person’s strangeness and differences,  when you are ready to handle whatever comes out of the relationship be it love,  companionship,  demand,  challenge,  heartbreak,  break up, marriage,  a childchild etc.

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  • in reply to: Multiple Personality disorder #9084

    Janefrances
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    The topic has really been exhausted by previous writers but in adition to what Femi Onileagbon has shared, It is called dissociative identity disorder because a person who has this disorder seems just like different people at different times, more common in the disorder is two personalities. The two personalities in the person have completely different behaviours, might even be so bad that they dress different, different speech habits, eating habits, frients etc. The person as one of his personalities does not remember what his other personality does, more like two strangers who have never met in one body. One personality is completely dissociated with the other.

    It is a very dangerous fisorder as the second personality formed in defence against the causative trauma might be erratic.

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  • in reply to: COMMON SENSE #9081

    Janefrances
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    As Chijann rightly said, common sense is really not common at all.

    Common sense simply is wisdom. One of the rarest gifts. It is easy to find knowledgeable people or even intelligent people but common sense/wisdom, is not that easy to find. It can elude the elders and be found in a child. Though admitedly, common sense grows with time and experience.

    The ability to deduce what is not being said and to know the proper reaction. It form’s a basis for normal daily activities and provides solution to complex problems.

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  • in reply to: DANCE #8955

    Janefrances
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    Dance is different things to different people

    Display to some

    Recreation to some

    Career to some

    Expression to some

    Culture to some

    Praise/ respect to some

    But one thing it is to all is beautiful.

    Watching or participating lifts your heart, helps relieve stress, might even make you cry.

    In Africa, we dance to welcome, to entertain, as a ritual, to showcase and maintain tradition, coming of age, strength, virginity. For many white folks, it depicts love and romance as is shown by the waltz, strength, trust and respect as show by the tango and salsa artistic concentration and co-ordination as seen in tap dancing.

    Dance is universal, diverse and unifying.

    In modern days, dance moves have so advanced that they seem to keep breaking many laws of physics. One day spent watching the programme “so you think you can dance” and you are saying to yourself “what?” and struggling to keep your mouth shut.

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  • in reply to: My Philosophy of Love #8954

    Janefrances
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    Love to me is simply putting YOU before I. It is not necessarily never thinking of myself  as thinking of myself should form a base for how I think of others but it is thinking of YOU as ME before thinking of  I as me. This means doing what might favour YOU the first me over I the second ME.

    Love requires selflessness, sacrifice, charity; both physical giving and mental giving(not thinking uncharitable thought towards others)

    To love, we first have to have love as one cannot give what one dies not have. It is afterall the love we have for ourselves that we extend to others “do unto others as you would have them do to you” “love thy neighbour as thyself”. These two quotes simply define the totality of love.

    Love does not pamper. It cares and is strict. It does not just allow, it correct, but does not condemn. It gives without encouraging laziness.

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  • in reply to: Good, Bad And Reason. #8953

    Janefrances
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    In my opinion, good or bad depends on the action, the place, the time, intention and the condition also severity is to be considered.

    If a good deed is done at the wrong time, wrong place and with a wrong intention, it automatically become’s bad but if what we perceive as wrong is done for the right reason and intention, the term bad might no longer be fitting.

    Looking at the case of the man, some questions need to be asked. Is he a lazy man who has refused to work? Had he tried begging and no one gave him? And did the people he stole from still have enough to eat after he did?

    If the answers are no to the first and yes to the second and third, then I would hardly call what he did  wrong. Why ?

    In morality,  survival is absolutely important. It is afterall our duty as a people to ensure that our neighbours do not starve to death which means it is the society’s fault that he was reduced to such a state of hunger, that he needed to steal food.

    Have we ever wondered why even in law, killing suddenly changes name from murder to self defense when it is done in protection of self or another from being killed? It is because the morality of survival allows so. It is only extraordinary people, that can sacrifice themselves for a good name. Normal people don’t infact life is so precious that we are bound by law and morality to protect it.

    Bad is bad but when done in a poor  mental state or for a moral reason, it becomes justifiable. Not good but justifiable.

     

     

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  • in reply to: HOUSE HELPS AND THEIR MASTERS #8952

    Janefrances
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    The topic of house help and their masters is often a touchy one.

    House help abuse by their masters especially the women is almost an everyday news but so also are cases of house helps abusing their masters and doing mind boggling things to children left in their care.

    A few house helps and the families they live with have such a lovely relationship that you would almost wish to be them. Though no one can ever truly tella person’s behaviour but I think if we could start investigating families, even a little before sending our children to them and if children could also be investigated before taking them as helps, these issues would reduce. I believe we need an agency that would control keeping of domestic help. They would pay inproptu unoficial visits to see how the helps are treated and how the helps treat the masters and their children, have a controlled environment where the helps will be examined for abuse by medical and oral examination and also where children put in their care are examined too. There should be laws guiding keeping a domestic help.

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  • in reply to: As the competition draws to a close… #8949

    Janefrances
    Participant

    Long story short

    Filtered thoughts is challenging, informative, funny at times, absolutely interesting.

    It has been an adventur and this I hopr, is just the begining.

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  • in reply to: Voting #8947

    Janefrances
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    A saying goes “every democracy get’s the government it deserve’s”

    Voting is the major power of the citezens of a democratic country. It is our only chance of saying “this is how we want our country to be” and until we put sentiments, popular party syndrome, nonchalance, vote selling and sheer laziness aside, democracy can never be achieved because we have simply refused to deserve it. Once in church during a programme, the priest  was speaking about how we blame the government for problems we caused ourselves and he asked people that have voter’s card to stand up, the number was quite discouraging. Most of those that do have, refuse to vote as they feel it is a waste of time, others wait to be mobilized and worst of all, we would rather vote an unqualified candidate of a popular party than vote a qualified candidate of an unpopular party. In fact candidates from small parties are not considered as part of available choices.

    We complain of rigging but has there ever been a time when results were announced that all the voters came out to unanimously say that theresults did not reflect their votes?

    “every democracy get’s the government it deserves”

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  • in reply to: Change of Dominant Hand #8718

    Janefrances
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    The need to change the dominant hand stems from the African superstitions and perception of respect.

    It is taken that the right hand is the right hand and the eft, the wrong hand. Using the left hand to give or greet is mostly seen as irresponsible and disrespectful but the point is that changing the dominant hand somehow affects the brain and to me may even reduce refkexes and other brain functions  to some extent.

    I had my dominant hand changed and till dat, I still have that tingly feeling in my lefthand making it feel almost out of place or ill used.

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  • in reply to: Beads #8714

    Janefrances
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    In the olden days and even in modern days in some old traditions, beads were and are greatly significant. Used for beautification, to show affluence, for identification or to potray a message.

    Take the wait beads for example.

    Back in the day, it meant to some cultures readiness for marriage, for some fertility, for some virginity, for some even, a mark of ownership.

    In modern days, beads mostly just show affluence, used for fashion and for entertainment.

    The use of beafs has now crossed the bounds of single line beads, beading styles are now complex and intricately woven designs used for neck beads, hand beads, ankle beads, waist beads, purses, beaded staff(walkibg stick), foot wears, ties, belts, house hold items, etc. As the use of beads have diversified, so have the types, materials, shapes and colours become uncountable and very far from the red, black and white corals of the ancient times

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  • in reply to: Freedom Has Limit. #8711

    Janefrances
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    I have always agreed with the opinion that freedom is the greatest prison.

    Freedom is extremely limited in fact, the word freedom is almost a lie.

    Man really has no freedom.

    Total freedom woukd involve doing whatsoever we wish, wgen we wish, how we wish, to whom we wish without repercussion.

    Freedom is gratly limited by law, morality, concience, expectations, society, drive, decorum. With freedom comes a great need for one to shackle himself in the chains of the ideals of the world and yeachings of the concience.

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