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Dance is different things to different people
Display to some
Recreation to some
Career to some
Expression to some
Culture to some
Praise/ respect to some
But one thing it is to all is beautiful.
Watching or participating lifts your heart, helps relieve stress, might even make you cry.
In Africa, we dance to welcome, to entertain, as a ritual, to showcase and maintain tradition, coming of age, strength, virginity. For many white folks, it depicts love and romance as is shown by the waltz, strength, trust and respect as show by the tango and salsa artistic concentration and co-ordination as seen in tap dancing.
Dance is universal, diverse and unifying.
In modern days, dance moves have so advanced that they seem to keep breaking many laws of physics. One day spent watching the programme “so you think you can dance” and you are saying to yourself “what?” and struggling to keep your mouth shut.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
Love to me is simply putting YOU before I. It is not necessarily never thinking of myself as thinking of myself should form a base for how I think of others but it is thinking of YOU as ME before thinking of I as me. This means doing what might favour YOU the first me over I the second ME.
Love requires selflessness, sacrifice, charity; both physical giving and mental giving(not thinking uncharitable thought towards others)
To love, we first have to have love as one cannot give what one dies not have. It is afterall the love we have for ourselves that we extend to others “do unto others as you would have them do to you” “love thy neighbour as thyself”. These two quotes simply define the totality of love.
Love does not pamper. It cares and is strict. It does not just allow, it correct, but does not condemn. It gives without encouraging laziness.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
In my opinion, good or bad depends on the action, the place, the time, intention and the condition also severity is to be considered.
If a good deed is done at the wrong time, wrong place and with a wrong intention, it automatically become’s bad but if what we perceive as wrong is done for the right reason and intention, the term bad might no longer be fitting.
Looking at the case of the man, some questions need to be asked. Is he a lazy man who has refused to work? Had he tried begging and no one gave him? And did the people he stole from still have enough to eat after he did?
If the answers are no to the first and yes to the second and third, then I would hardly call what he did wrong. Why ?
In morality, survival is absolutely important. It is afterall our duty as a people to ensure that our neighbours do not starve to death which means it is the society’s fault that he was reduced to such a state of hunger, that he needed to steal food.
Have we ever wondered why even in law, killing suddenly changes name from murder to self defense when it is done in protection of self or another from being killed? It is because the morality of survival allows so. It is only extraordinary people, that can sacrifice themselves for a good name. Normal people don’t infact life is so precious that we are bound by law and morality to protect it.
Bad is bad but when done in a poor mental state or for a moral reason, it becomes justifiable. Not good but justifiable.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
The topic of house help and their masters is often a touchy one.
House help abuse by their masters especially the women is almost an everyday news but so also are cases of house helps abusing their masters and doing mind boggling things to children left in their care.
A few house helps and the families they live with have such a lovely relationship that you would almost wish to be them. Though no one can ever truly tella person’s behaviour but I think if we could start investigating families, even a little before sending our children to them and if children could also be investigated before taking them as helps, these issues would reduce. I believe we need an agency that would control keeping of domestic help. They would pay inproptu unoficial visits to see how the helps are treated and how the helps treat the masters and their children, have a controlled environment where the helps will be examined for abuse by medical and oral examination and also where children put in their care are examined too. There should be laws guiding keeping a domestic help.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
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Filtered thoughts is challenging, informative, funny at times, absolutely interesting.
It has been an adventur and this I hopr, is just the begining.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
A saying goes “every democracy get’s the government it deserve’s”
Voting is the major power of the citezens of a democratic country. It is our only chance of saying “this is how we want our country to be” and until we put sentiments, popular party syndrome, nonchalance, vote selling and sheer laziness aside, democracy can never be achieved because we have simply refused to deserve it. Once in church during a programme, the priest was speaking about how we blame the government for problems we caused ourselves and he asked people that have voter’s card to stand up, the number was quite discouraging. Most of those that do have, refuse to vote as they feel it is a waste of time, others wait to be mobilized and worst of all, we would rather vote an unqualified candidate of a popular party than vote a qualified candidate of an unpopular party. In fact candidates from small parties are not considered as part of available choices.
We complain of rigging but has there ever been a time when results were announced that all the voters came out to unanimously say that theresults did not reflect their votes?
“every democracy get’s the government it deserves”Thoughtful Comments: 0.
The need to change the dominant hand stems from the African superstitions and perception of respect.
It is taken that the right hand is the right hand and the eft, the wrong hand. Using the left hand to give or greet is mostly seen as irresponsible and disrespectful but the point is that changing the dominant hand somehow affects the brain and to me may even reduce refkexes and other brain functions to some extent.
I had my dominant hand changed and till dat, I still have that tingly feeling in my lefthand making it feel almost out of place or ill used.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
In the olden days and even in modern days in some old traditions, beads were and are greatly significant. Used for beautification, to show affluence, for identification or to potray a message.
Take the wait beads for example.
Back in the day, it meant to some cultures readiness for marriage, for some fertility, for some virginity, for some even, a mark of ownership.
In modern days, beads mostly just show affluence, used for fashion and for entertainment.
The use of beafs has now crossed the bounds of single line beads, beading styles are now complex and intricately woven designs used for neck beads, hand beads, ankle beads, waist beads, purses, beaded staff(walkibg stick), foot wears, ties, belts, house hold items, etc. As the use of beads have diversified, so have the types, materials, shapes and colours become uncountable and very far from the red, black and white corals of the ancient timesThoughtful Comments: 0.
I have always agreed with the opinion that freedom is the greatest prison.
Freedom is extremely limited in fact, the word freedom is almost a lie.
Man really has no freedom.
Total freedom woukd involve doing whatsoever we wish, wgen we wish, how we wish, to whom we wish without repercussion.
Freedom is gratly limited by law, morality, concience, expectations, society, drive, decorum. With freedom comes a great need for one to shackle himself in the chains of the ideals of the world and yeachings of the concience.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
Self medication has done a lot of damage .
The tendency to self medicate is further encouraged by the availability of drugs in the open market and worse by the misconception of our people that drug sellers are chemists, some even call them doctors and not only buy unprescribed drugs from them but also go to them for prescription.
This is a menace to the society.
It is high time we made selling of drugs strictly for qualified medical personnele and only with prescription with exceptions to the strict prescription rule given only to first aid drugs.
Another factor fostering self medication is poverty which makes people refrain from going to hospitals due to a fear of bills.
If health care could be acquired at a seriously subsidized cost, I believe self medication would greatly reduce and with it, a reduction in petty drug abuse.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Medical history is extrmely important in medical care. A goid medical histiry can completely change a doctor’s diagnosis despite symptoms pointing to another situation. It informs the doctor about the patient, sicknesses, tendencies, allergies etc. It even controls the prescription.
It is therefore sad that medical histories are sometimes faulty or not taken serious.
The problems facing proper medical care based on rickety hitories include
1. Patients who lie about situations and health conditions
2 careless doctors
3 patients who jump from one hospital to the other making it difficult to maintain for them a detailed record of medical history.
2 careless staff at hospital records unit. Etc
An example of how important medical history can be is
A friend of mine suddenly started feeling these back and head aches. She went to the hospital and had drugs administered but they were no relief so she returned to a hospital she had been visiting before. One look at her folder and the doctor at the GOPD referred her to the eye clinic. In her mind she was like”what? Back ache and eye clinic?”
Well she went to the eye clinic, had refraction done and got a pair of glasses and back pain was gone. Turned out she had a history of an eye problem that could cause migraines and back pains and this was what the dotor saw in her file that made him referr her.
The importance of medical history just can’t be over emphasized.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
It is good to say the truth but not all truths need to be said.
When saying a particular truth will only lead to hurt, chaos, enmity, but achieve no good then why say it?
We always assume that of two opposing statements about one thing that one is true and the other lie but this is not always applicable. In some cases, it may be the “you see 6 and I see 9” situation. Sometimes, view point determines what is true.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
We always have this “wicked mothers in-law” mentality. We forget that there are some wicked daughters in-law too.
Usually, people quickly attribute the fault to the mothers-in-law. I think it is due to the “weaker ones are always right” mentality and because most opressed mothers don’t spread it to the world like the wives do.
The point is that the problem is sometimes the wife, sometimes the mother and most times both. Women are natural leaders. To us everything is a competition and we love to be in control. I think the problem is that most times, a mother forgets that the son is grown up and now has another captain controlling his ship and the wife forgets that though she is the new and inexperienced captain, the ship(husband’s life) had a captain before so instead of fighting with the old captain for power, she should make her (the mother) her(the wife) mentor and advicer on how to best handle the ship.
That way, mother feels respected and needed and freely relinquishes power and wife has full control plus bonus guidance from the old captain leathing to a smoother sail.
It is not really a question of two bad women or one good and one bad woman, it is mostly a question of lack of understanding and insecurities and two women who are in competition for control.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Will as a word simply means wish or decision.
Will is a legal document containing how a person wants his belongings inherited after death. It helps to save the deceased’s loved ones a lot of stress and quarell and protects the weaker relatives from the greed of stronger ones.
But more than the legal will of belongings, will is the decsion making ability of a person. It helps us have convictions, stand firm on ideas and belifs and work tirelessly towards a goal.
The will makes a person strong or weak, successful or unsucessful. Making good choices and standing by them is a functuion of the will. A person who can stand by decisions is strong willed a person who can easily be influenced to changecdecisions, is weak willed/gullible.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
The idea of spreading what you hear without proof or even spreading slader with proof when it achieves nothing is not only a useless wiched waste of time, but is also considered a criminal act by law and a grave sin by morality.
A wise man said.
Before you tell a tale ask yourself
Am I sure it is true?
Will telling it be a good deed?
Even if the news being caried is true but will dame someone anddo no one good what is the point in spreading it?
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- He who slander’s his brother’s name, has killed him. Sometimes slander is worse than cold blooded murder and the worst is that in cases where the rumor being spread is false and the truth is later found out, the truth is never spread as fast and wide as the lie and the positive impact usually remains.