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  • in reply to: Domestic violence and Nigerian men #6516

    Iyke
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    Domestic violence in Nigeria is a problem as in many parts of Africa.
    There is a deep cultural belief in Nigeria that it is socially acceptable to discipline a spouse. Domestic violence is widespread and shows no signs of lessening in Nigeria.
    Many being a victim of domestic violence.

    Domestic violence takes many forms including physical, sexual, emotional, and mental.

    Traditionally, domestic violence is committed against females. violence against women in Nigeria are rape, molestation, wife beating, and corporal punishment.

    Although There is currently a laws concerning domestic violence and for a stronger national response and support for domestic violence issues.
    but have yielded nothing.

    We really need to put a stop to this infringing issue.
    Men need to understand that violence doesn’t have a possible result. Two wrongs cannot make a right.

    If only our Government can be serious for once and Come up with a law, this would have been long forgone.

    The Society and the church need to play a serious role model in this violence issue.
    The individual is another element to fighting for this if we want peace to be on human race.

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  • in reply to: Helping others grow #6514

    Iyke
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    Prosperity Does Not Come By Magic

    Indeed, leaders can come from anywhere; anybody can achieve success and prosperity. It doesn’t matter where you are. Our problem is that we have failed to pass on quality education to our children. We have failed to rouse in them the passion for hard work. We have replaced dignity of labour with cutting corner prosperity and many are today eating the bread of laziness.

    We need to go back to the drawing board and get it right. We need to teach our children the benefits of hard work and ways to work hard to gain those benefits, because prosperity does not come by magic.

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  • in reply to: Virginity doesn't Neccessarily guarantee anything #6510

    Iyke
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    Virginity guarantee a lot in Marriage, but not a good marriage.

    This few points will make you feel virginity guarantee a good marriage;

    A virgin woman will not want to be out of love with her husband.

    she won’t be likely to cheat if she is loved unconditionally.

    She is trusted with fate.

    She will not be comparing her man with the rest.

    She will be an instrument of peace and blessing in the husbands house.

    She will be mannered so far she has not known men in the past

    She will be supportive to the man.

    She will be never be compared in respect with women who have known men before marriage.

    She will always prefer her husband to any other man as women don’t like to “let go” on the man that broke their virginity.

    She will be an epitome of cleanliness, as far as she of age.

    She will not leave her children to hunger, while gossiping around.

    She will have a sense of belonging in the man’s house, so far she doesn’t know men in the past.

    She will be compelled to the truth and sincerity.

    She will not be extremely troublesome to the man.

    It will be hard for her to misappropriate funds.

    She will be totally supportive,
    and what’s not.
    The different is clear between her
    and her counterparts who have known men.
    And don’t forget all this qualities will manifest if she doesn’t have advisers outside the marriage and if there’s unconditional love. The day you pushes this woman on the wall is the day she will unravel the other side of her color. All the above might not guarantee anything as change is constant.

    Don’t compare when our parents who had the fear of God while they went to church to be thought Holiness. Unlike this day that we go to church Holy to our standard and not the standard of God.

    Do you know that 4 out of every married couple is cheating on his partner, and most of the marriages today are no more built on love and trust, but on contract and wealth.

    There are many attributes of a virgin wife which a non virgin will not possess, From time immemorial, a woman’s virginity has been seen as one of her most prized possessions and a certain respect was accorded to any woman who remained a virgin till marriage.
    But with modernization, came placing less value on a woman’s virginity.
    These days, virginity is even seen as a curse. Girls have no qualms losing it to the first man that comes their way.

    In the days of old, a maiden was expected to go into marriage as a virgin. If on the first night after the marriage her husband discovered she was not a virgin, her family gets instant condemnation.

    Civilization has substantially changed the way people perceive virginity. Today, there’s so much pressure on girls to gain sexual experience before getting married as some men do not want to marry a woman with no sexual experience.
    Most girls who have friends that are already sexually active feel left out when they are discussing their experiences, hence the urge to also experiment for themselves.

    Virgins are really very scarce these days as majority loose it even before the age of 20. Some girls even compete among themselves who would be the first to lose her virginity.

    But what is the big deal about virginity? Could it be the secret to a happy marriage? No it’s not.

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  • in reply to: Why Women Should Be Financially Independent. #6509

    Iyke
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    Very necessary as this will go a long way in her family.
    Financial independence means one have enough wealth to live on. financially independent  people have assets that generate income (cash flow) that is at least equal to their expenses.

    In the family for example, the many. may be unfit to take care of the family financially. this will propel lending of wealth if the woman is not financially boyant. if she is, she will help out with financial spendings in the house.

    No one is made to be particular in financially being independent. a man can loose his job and the woman can take up.

    Most importantly, women who are financially independent are empowered.
    Empowerement means authority or power given to someone to do something.
    The term empowerment refers to measures designed to increase the degree of autonomy and self-determination in people and in communities in order to enable them to represent their interests in a responsible way.
    Without empowering a woman with words of encouragement, love and support. she will have nothing to show up, although some are born with the zeal to do be a super woman.

    Most women who are financially independent have a strong force behind them; mostly lover. From him she gets the words she needs to go on with. she may not be able to decide what she wants to do from the host of the things she knows how to do. she might need a little capital to start up with. So the man have a great job to do in this issue especially when they are married.

    I know of a man who won 1,000,000 Naira in lottery. gave his wife 400,000 naira, bought a shop for her to start a provision business. in less than 3 months the wife bought a car gift for the husband who has a motorcycle for his petty farm products. Today life has turned around through the womans effort from the mans empowerment.

    It’s very necessary to note that two heads are better than one, a tree doesn’t make a bush. Our women need financial independent as it will help the man to put up other neccesities like a structure, as he is expected to show up some other developedments as time goes on.

    Women are not sex dolls, a woman has multifaceted strategies in financial acquiring skills. most community restrictions over women has made them confined in the kitchen and the bed, remember this brought about Feminism in the 19th century in the western world.

    Personally, I won’t marry a woman without financial independent, if she doesn’t have one, I will start up one, at least an O’level in education is enough for me, as it will help the family to grow strong and sweet.

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  • Iyke
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    Happiness is a state of mind which is bore in the heart to the mind. Happiness causes splendid joy.

    In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.

    Without being contented with what you have, you will not be able to be happy. those who have earned it has only been contented with who they are, where they are, what they do and what they have.
    Most happy people live longer than the rest, and this why recreation is very important as all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

    Being happy is by choice and decision. with this choice you can decide to be happy even when you have been upset to a level of understanding.

    Most people put their happiness on what they like the most. Example is football, delicacies, lover, and what’s not. But It’s important to note that this things mentioned can never last. but the joy of loving oneself and people around him is the most type of Happiness as the other cannot hold water.

    Happiness is a thing of the mind and soul. it earned by personal choice and decision to be happy no matter what happens.

    I hope with this few points of mine that I am able to convince you that Happiness is earned by an individual with the choices and decisions he makes for himself. Thanks!

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  • in reply to: How can you stop worrying about your finances? #6505

    Iyke
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    You only felt worried about your finances because you feel dissatisfied, unfulfilled, fear, worry, regret, agony and discontentment.

    This worry comes as a thought on how to make more, invest it, feel fulfilled with your “who to be”. This troubles the heart so much which results to indecisiveness of one’s plans, because you want to make it to be the best.

    It is a normal thing for a wright thinking person to worry, but not much because it will on give in to Anxiety and there comes depression of the mind due to inconclusive thoughts with considerations.

    Making away with financial worries can be managed on the level of feeling Contented with what you have already. But don’t fail to plan accordingly on your level as finances is believed to grow as life grows. contentment means a state of happiness and satisfaction and furtherly a mental or emotional state of satisfaction maybe drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind. once you apply this the problem is resolved with happiness taking over you and your thoughts.

    I hope the above helps to enlighten you the more.

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  • in reply to: The implication of words #6503

    Iyke
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    Words are time bombs when uttered without thinking. Thoughtful words create a level of understanding in communication. words is the bedrock of every relationship.

    One has to watch what they say at every point in time to attain maximum good recommendations.

    first, we should know that Words are framed from the heart to the mind. a person sould be able to be positively responsible for his utterances with respect to the feeder. even at times of upset. we should try to use simple vocabulary to connote our mind without infringing on the feeder.

    Secondly, soft words softens the heart, if we humans can practice this soft way of communicating without showing fake body language while communicating.it might possibly spark love and commitment.
    “out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh” one has to check his innermost contemplations before depicting them with words to create communication.

    Considerably we have to avoid bad words, with this factor we can find everyone around us clamouring for identification. When bad words are released, it causes a lot of psychological trauma to the feeder.

    If you are the type that gets heat up when upset in an argument. Do calm down,take a leave of relief and rethink before replying. Avoid speaking aggressively for they will destroy your reputation in creating an understanding. The “sorry” can only be a medicine after death.

    Finally, a barking dog doesn’t bite; Too many words are not necessary in discussions. Hit the points and explain extensively when necessary.

    Don’t forget words wrecked the almighty Titanic, watch it before it ruins up our relationships. watch it.

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  • in reply to: You can't tell everybody #6498

    Iyke
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    It is not everyone that calls Messiah will enter heavenly Gate. Hatred,jealousy and envy exists from time immemorial;right away from the Bible(Cane and Abel).
    You don’t know who’s getting a hitch on you for being better than they expect to be.This is a feeling or showing an envious resentment for someone on their achievements, possessions, or perceived advantages.

    It is on this note that many had built there life thinking they will live in other people’s lives. thereby comparing themselves with other people’s achievements, possessions and advantages thinking everyone is the same in life. If every Nigerian is a President, who will be the citizen?
    This is why envy comes in to the heart and bored to an extent of depicting them through actions and inactions. this leads to possible death of the person possessing achievements.

    On this issue many have resorted to keep their achievements a secret to themselves. really appalling envying another on his success forgetting his hard work and sleepless nights. I strongly believe God endowed everybody with his own possessions and possible advantages.

    This attitude is common with relatives and especially the kinsmen. One can stop this from happening by;
    *playing on the level of the same ground with the said person’s without telling much on your secret life.
    *Avoid showing off on your new acquired properties.
    *Avoid discussing personal issues of life like; family, love, marital issues, possessions, achievements, possible advantages.
    *Avoid unneccesary visits from the said people and establish a place of “meeting”.
    *Avoid discussing your trips and whereabouts to unneccesary people who may be a possible threat.

    It’s indeed on the above that I built my life since everyone is after to know if I am making it. Yes I am making it and non of them knows because I don’t show off.
    Do play safe to avoid terminating your life by this wicked stone hearted men, who keep on comparing their lives with yours. Do play safe and watch how it will be

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  • in reply to: Are you one of us? The weirdos. #6460

    Iyke
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    Too disgusting to condone with. At a particular age in life, when one is mature enough, he will surely hate wired smell to refreshing smells.

    Personaly I hate body odor, especially those pungent ones from mature people, who don’t bath well, shave armpits and use cologne on themselves. Mouth odor!, Oh! my Jesus. I can’t give in to that person because I will feel like vomiting.

    I don’t know why some mature people cannot take care of themselve, there are colognes, Deodorants,  perspirants that is affordable in the market. There also, mouth washes, sprays ecetras. They should buy them and use to avoid people like me,  isolating them.

    It’s wrong not to advice this class of people. Do good!, Let them know it can be corrected. I don’t think anyone with body odor who bath’s 4 times a day, shaves his armpit and genital parts twice a week, uses deodorants, perspirants, and colognes will have such a disgusting smell. Even he with mouth odor should know it’s corrective; brush trice a day and after meals  with special mouth washes, also go about your daily endeavour’s with a mouth spray.  It’s all about approach and mindset inculcated with sense of belonging.

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  • in reply to: The Confession of a Gambler #6456

    Iyke
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    Frankly speaking, betting is fun if you bet on your favorite clubs, understanding the odds and having a sense of understanding that betting is not a job, or a way of life. I do bet only my favorite clubs and always win. Maybe, because I’m a football fan. I have never spent 1000 naira in a month on betting and I make not less than 40 thousand Naira per month, although I receives  salary as a worker,  also, i have a little networking business.

    He had made the mistake; being a Novice on football game. He is also a student and not in the working class. He should be termed a compulsive and habitual bettor, which can destroy a person’s life, a compulsive or habitual bettor likely suffers personal problems and financial ruin. Too much of  gambling can sometimes lead to a life of crime.

    There are many responsible bettors who do if for fun, or what I call occasional bettors. I am one.

    Pointing out this. Gambling is not evil, if you are eligible, bets occasionaly, bets responsibly, and on the working force.

    The young ones should know that winning is luck, as predicting wright is luck. Betting is not a job or way of survival. It’s on the level of fun for ones favorite clubs.

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  • in reply to: when is the right time? #6451

    Iyke
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    Time we say; waits for no one. The right time is now. The truth about being late is procrastination and lack of value.

    If one is to cook for the children who are yet to come back from school around 13:00pm, also have hair to make the same day. He know full well the time to make the hair will take almost a day, and the cooking not up to 1 hour. She has to do the cooking first before going to salon for hair making.

    What I am point out is that; we need to do the first things first, every other thing follows.

    If its business you actually have to notify what business your passion goes for, followed by capital, site, building and setting up before selling.

    It’s right to say something can hold you down, but you should also know that zeal do die over time spent thinking of how to go about it. This is why they who see ladies and make the first move takes over the girl, than he who is waiting for the right coincidental time to come.

    I am still saying again; Do the first things, followed by any other thing, i won’t fail to let you know that you have to put your God first. Believing in every step you take.. Start now, there is nothing to wait for. The right time is now or it will be late.

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  • in reply to: What really is Feminism? #6450

    Iyke
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    Feminism, is the belief in the social, economic, and political equality of the sexes.
    Originated in the west. feminism is practiced worldwide, reopened by various institutions, to the activity on behalf of
    women’s rights and interests throughout the world.

    This came about in the western history, women were confined to domestic chores, while public life was reserved for men.
    For instance, In medieval Europe, women were denied the right to own property, study, or participate in public affairs.
    At the end of the 19th century in France, they were still compelled to cover their heads in public, and, in parts of Germany, a husband still had the right to sell his wife. they neither vote nor hold any offices, or own a business without a male(father, brother, husband, legal agent, or even son) as a representative.
    Married women could not exercise control over their own children without the permission of their husbands. Moreover, women had little or no access to education, and were barred from most professions. In some parts of the world, such restrictions on women continue today.

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  • in reply to: Freedom is bliss #6404

    Iyke
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    Agreeably I concur to everything written, but not the first two lines; “where you don’t get to explain your Yes(s) and No(s) uneccesarily”

    The above means a lot especially for them in power. Power intoxicates. As someone in power you owe every explanation to your subjects or governed as the case may be. Even when it is unnecessary in other to attain transparency.

    The day you fail to explain, is the day doubts will fill the right thinking mind about your being. Foiled with rehctoric questions.

    Humans are very sensitive to the moon and back. Every step that Mr, President makes is calculated properly or improperly due to sensitivity of Nigerians who are no more interested in the said Change.

    Even when the people know that they cannot impeach Him without finding gross misconducts and misappropriation. They still go ahead writing and questioning every action.

    I will advice, try explaining even when it’s unnecessary, to avoid doubt and attain some level of transparency in your daily life. Thanks. I hope you do understand.

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  • in reply to: MAJOR FACTORS AFFECTING THE STANDARD OF NIGERIAN TEACHERS #6400

    Iyke
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    The major factor should be the love and fun of the job, although it’s considerate to put in salaries. what about environment, distance from home, educational background, lack of social amenities within the school.
    I don’t believe the pay is the major factor. the individual should be. most teachers in Nigeria are not qualified. they came to the job due to lack of job and lack of admission for professional courses.

    Believe you me, the man behind the weapon is to be blamed for misfiring and not the weapon..

    Considerably place the individual as the first factor, because most of them lack the passion for the job and always counting blames on the Government. Even the ones who have every needed procurements for standard education still fumble in the system.

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  • in reply to: The individual or The institution? #6399

    Iyke
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    The individual is the Author of his destiny, not the institution.

    The institution is there to put the individual on the scale and checkmate him on what he should know on the level of education. After education comes the real face of life for the individual.

    The individual is the author of what goes and what will be. Without efforts, patience, pasevearance and God. the individual will have nothing to show up. He is the captain of his ship. His decisions matters. His overlooks matters. His kind of friends matters. Without failing to understand that his background and family does not matter.
    If he can pasevear and posses the power of trial and error, with fate he will move mountains.

    I once adviced my secondary classmate to learn carpentry, after I saw the little work he did in his room. He looked down the job, continued writing jamb over and over again without success.
    One day he passed by a carpentry workshop, saw the carpenter struggling to hold his work without a clamp, holding the hammer on his shoulder and the nails on his lips, he rushed in, offered a help, even went further to show the carpenter some other ways of making the piece of work to look more beautiful. The carpenter saw a great upcoming carpenter in him but didn’t say a word and only uttered; Thanks! after the help and he tip.
    Days by, He felt lonely in the house and went to the carpenters shop to relax, chat and help out, there advices and convictions came through from the owner of the workshop. After a while of thinking, he gave in to it and in 3 months he was already producing stylish upholsteries with beautiful designs incorporated with his little idea on network marketing, He excelled to be the best in the area and remaining the best till now. He didn’t give up in school, but went for part time because of business..

    Think of it, if he joined cultism, bad gangs, smokers and whats not. He will not arrive to who he is today and the level of his education.

    The individual is the author of his destiny not the institution. I believe with this little view. you have come to understand the individual is the captain of his ship.

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