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mayjovey, on a natural level, how do you tell right from wrong, wrong attitude from a decent or beauty from ugly? There is a certain consciousness given to all men to discern these things. So, in the case of indecent dressing, why say: “what works for one may not work for another”? Isn’t that sentiment in itself? Sentiments like this is what encourages people to continue doing something that is obviously wrong or damaging. Indecent dressing means the person must have exposed body parts that are meant to be private (why call it private when you are going to show it to the world anyway?)Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Cain married his in the old testament but that was before the laws of Moses made light to the fact that it is incest and is sin.
It is now pretty clear that biblical principles condems it. God will not ask you to do something outside of his will which is found in the Bible else He, God, would be contradicting himself. That man should go and find the source of that voice again because it is not God.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
NonChalant, you give off the impression that you don’t like God. That’s your personal decision but on the question of whether we are really precious to God, I’ll answer by a little preaching:
If you have read the Bible from the beginning you would note that God created the earth perfect for the (wo)man with everything s/he would ever need provided for. Man however rebelled by disobeying the one thing God asked him not to do. That disobedience has brought the repercussions which we face today. This is according to the Bible.
I don’t believe that precious things were always hidden from the beginning, because everything was just pure and right, there was just no need to hide it, but the Bible states that man’s rebellion is the reason precious things that were simple to get have to be searched/dug for.
The same Bible states that God provides a redeemer in Jesus Christ. You of your will got to choose this redeemer or reject him.
Referring to earth as if it’s a dump is just plain wrong. God has given us a wonderful gift in form of earth, we ruin it daily by our choices and actions: global warming being a typical example.
God is not our problem; we are our problem based on the bad choices we make.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
You know what, on a second thought, let Man City win because they would make it easier for Barcelona if they meet somewhere in the semis. There’s a part of me that’s careful about Liverpool. They are really deadly this season.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
Ah! Mr Femi bad Belle o. See, the thing is that Man city will always lose against barca. To save them the pain, let them just lose against another.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
Correction to my reply: ..in his presentations…Not in his presentations regarding.
I can’t edit here with my mobile.Thoughtful Comments: 0.
It’s not really tricky you’ve already stated that option B means the person would keep repeating the same mistake and one day it would cost them something important if they are not corrected.
However, option A does not necessarily mean that the person will accept your corrections. Humans naturally have pride; the kind that is defensive against correction. They could blatantly ignore you and even purposely repeat the same mistake just to annoy.
You also stated that the way the correction is presented matters but this isn’t always so. A proud person is a proud person; soft or straight forward or rude correction wouldn’t really make a difference. I know a story of two presenters in an office; one kept using the grammar , “every genuine customers” in his presentations regarding. The other one, one day decided to quietly correct him by passing a written note to him stating the proper sentence, “every genuine customer”. The recipient hissed at the note, and threw it out the window.
We humans should learn humility. Criticism and corrections are part of life. People will always have something to say about you that they don’t like. Reflect on their words, analyse the situations and your attitude to it then ask yourself if what they say is really true. This way we become better persons.
So I pick option A.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Femi, if the references can’t be traced then this cannot be accepted as knowledge rather it is hearsay or even rumours. How do you just believe that Biodun Idiagbon actually had an ice cream shop or that Nigeria has the highest native speakers of the English language without evidence?
Some of these information are not even as ancient as you say. Patience Jonathan was first lady of just the former president. Would it be so difficult to find sources to back the claim that she has as many degrees as stated? (I don’t contest hers though, as I’ve heard something like that on the news, however references makes it solid).
I’ve recently began to search about the Koma people of Adamawa state because I want to be sure that what he presented about them is true, however this should have been his job before presenting this to us.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
I once saw a quote:”A single lie discovered is enough to create contagious doubt over every other truth expressed” – anonymous
Another one says: “White lies are like pregnancy. Soon they will become visible” – Anonymous.
When your lie(s) is(are) discovered, especially when it’s about something crucial, you lose trust from people. They are never always sure of your words.
I would rather have you tell me the truth that will hurt me now, which I can forgive(learn from) than a lie that will make me doubt you in the future. Truth is trust. People tend to trust and rely on the opinion of those who would always tell them the truth even when they don’t like it.
I am not one of those who think boyfriends should lie to their girlfriends so as not to hurt her. It’s a lose – lose situation for her, because if she discovers your lie she would still hurt, not just because of the lie or that you broke her faith in you but because you don’t consider her (or trust her to be) emotionally mature enough to handle the truth in the first place.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
This is nice and informative, but where did your friend get this info? Unless proven through reliable sources, I could just decide that some of the points are tell tale.
I find the ones about Patience Jonathan and the igbos funny though.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
It is easier said than done. It takes a lot of discipline and even experience have money and not want to spend it.
#by experience I mean that one remembers how it is when they overuse money and not have a reserve in dire situation. If you’ve ever been hungry because you used up all your income where the next one doesn’t come on time, you’ll be forced to save. But like Samson said, sometimes it is just not enough.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
I believe Ikenna is saying we should spend only on needs. Cravings and desires can wait if they are not a necessity.
There’s also something called impulsive spending – not planning to but buying whatever luxury that catches your eye. In order words it would require a lot of discipline to suppress these desires. Truth is when we invest or save what we would have used for our pleasures we could still buy them later and still have more money left.Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
Well our girls are trained to give love; be compassionate and emotional, clean, cook, generally care for the home. The boys are trained to feel like money is the only thing they could offer a family; compassionate men are seen as one of a kind, sissies, or weak. In essence, the girl, who later becomes a mother is trained to be the bond that holds a family. Where she is missing the family falls apart.
This is why it is important to teach both same principles. Teach both to give and receive love, cook, clean, care for others, etc.
When my father died, the bond between my mother and family members even his grew stronger, although she was forced into extra labour because of financial reasons (He didn’t let her work when he was alive). Somehow we still stayed together. We were a happy family.
When she died, the story isn’t the same again. Even though we try to stay together, some of us just want to go our own way. She was the emotional bond.
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@Sampson, …for virtually no good reason except for the boredom of his long term. Are you seriously trying to justify Gaddafi? Lybia’s was a democracy, and in a democracy the citizens decide who rules them. When a leader forcefully refuses to leave office because he feels entitled to that position, he is going against democracy. In a democracy, you make your mark as a leader, and leave for others to have the same chance. It is not an entitlement as Gaddafi tried to make it. So don’t justify him or make the Lybians look like they were ungrateful to him. A call to leadership is a call to service. Every citizen deserves to be given a healthy rulership.
Also, if the country was really healthy, then why did things fall apart so easily?Thoughtful Comments: 10. 10 (interesting)
March 5, 2018 at 3:33 am in reply to: What kind of thinking makes people successful or unsuccessful? #6715
First of all anyone who wants to succeed at anything must believe that they can.
Successful people are relentless and stubborn in their pursuits. They don’t let failure or any other setbacks to stop them from continuing. They don’t relax, procrastinate or take no for an answer.Thoughtful Comments: 0.