WHAT REALLY IS SELFISHNESS?

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  • #9835

    Adebulu
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    According to it’s definition, Selfishness is putting your interest first before others’.

    BUT…. A Yoruba adage says ”Ti ina ba njo eni, to njo omo eni, t’ara eni laa koko gban” that is ”If you and your child are getting burned in a fire outbreak, you first quench the fire on you before attempting to quench your child”

    Isn’t it sane, To put yourself first before others?
    How can you treat other people’s interest when you don’t treat yours?

    How can you care for others if you don’t do so for yourself?

    You have to be knowledgeable first before you can pass knowledge to others.

    Or how can you be striving to help others when you haven’t spent a seconds helping yourself?

    OK let me ask this way…. To what extent can ”Self Care” be termed as selfishness!?

    Let’s comment.

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  • #9868

    mayjovey
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    Selfishness is what it is…

    “Selfishness”

    We all at a point is guilty of this and who says it’s a crime

    Self is Self.

    You can only give what you have…

    You reflect yourself in others if you can shine bright enough…

    Self care cannot be overemphasized…

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  • #9884

    Samson
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    According to definition, selfishness is not bad especially with the emphasis on “first.”

    It only becomes bad after helping yourself first and refusing to help the other person.

    Like the example you gave, if ones fire isn’t quenched yet, their attempt to help the burning child might kill both of them because the burning man’s fire will just keep transferring to the child until it becomes too late.

    But act of selflessness should not be completely ignored. There are instances where the priority isn’t you first.
    A case of bodyguards or you versus a very good personality.

    Nonetheless, only the whole can truly make one whole.
    A sick doctor should save his life because only then would they be able to continue saving more lives of others.

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